Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work
The beginning of 2020 is finally here, and if you haven’t already, it’s time to reflect on the last 12 months, and how much has changed – or hasn’t.
If you are one of the many people who made New Year’s Resolutions last year, did you stick to them? Do you even remember them?
Chances are, they went out the window by the end of January, and you probably felt pretty guilt about them, right?
If so, don’t despair – you are in good company. Research suggests that less than ten percent (yes, 10%!) of New Year’s resolutions are actually achieved!
Unfortunately, January 1st is not a magical date that imbues us with unbreakable willpower and unbeatable motivation.
If you genuinely want to make changes to your lifestyle, you need more than an earnest promise made at midnight.
Authentic change is made gradually over time and is more about mindset than motivation.
Here’s how to start the wheels turning on change, that will actually last!
Change Doesn’t Come From “Should”
Most New Year’s resolutions come from a “should” place. You make the goal because you feel you should. It is from guilt and/or outside pressure.
While this may get you a week or two down the track, a “should” is not going to sustain a lifestyle change. The only thing that can do that is a genuine, heartfelt, soul-deep want that truly matters to you. So, don’t waste time making a resolution just because you feel you should.
Habits Don’t Change Overnight
Most of your habits developed subconsciously. All of them took years, or sometimes even decades, to become ingrained. Expecting to stop or start a habit on the 1st of January is unreasonable.
To alter a habit (stop smoking, exercise more, eat healthily, etc.), you must put a conscious effort in every day. Take small steps towards your goal each day. Exercise for 5 minutes to start with, cut down to three takeaway coffees a week instead of five. Gradual steps will get you towards your goal eventually.
The experts suggest that you can change a habit by replacing it with a new one. Maybe stop for your morning coffee, but get a delicious herbal tea instead or have a warm lemon and water which a lot of people have discovered has actually curbed their coffee cravings. You can also try attaching it to an existing habit. The key is to make it easy – at least to begin with.
It’s All About Mindset
No matter how determined you are to stick to a resolution, if you don’t work on altering your mindset, you are unlikely to succeed. The way we talk to ourselves and the things we believe about ourselves, affect every action we take.
Along with setting reasonable, achievable, authentic goals, we must dive deep into our mindset. Starting to journal, practicing gratitude or using affirmations can really help to alter your mindset in a positive way.
Resolutions Are Too Big
When it comes to resolutions, it’s pretty much all or nothing. “I’m going to stop drinking/smoking/eating junk food/procrastinating from the first day of the year.”
Unfortunately, no amount of willpower or burst of motivation is enough to make this stick long-term!
The best goals are those that are broken down into achievable chunks. It’s much more effective to choose one or two primary goals and break them down into monthly, weekly, or even daily steps.
Minor changes made in the present are much more valuable than focusing on (and being overwhelmed by) lofty goals in the future.
If you really want to make changes in your life, there’s no reason to wait for a magical date sometime in the future. We can start making tangible changes right now – not next month, next week, not tomorrow. So, ditch those New Year’s resolutions, use the time to reflect on what matters to you, and get to work planning the baby steps that can go the distance.
Sticking to your goals can be hard when the going gets rough. Which is why it is important to have a support network to cheer you on and encourage you when you are down. The Wicked Healthy Tribe could be that network just for you. Likeminded ladies all working towards a similar goal and helping each other along the way.
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